There is nothing wrong with being monogamous; it’s a valid relationship orientation. The issue is that many who practice monogamy, including those who are naturally monogamous, are conditioned to do so in toxic ways. Conscious monogamy is critical and aware, free from possessiveness, and accepting of other relationship orientations. *While a conscious monogamist can date a polyamorist, some cannot due to trauma, which may lead to an inability to regulate jealousy, and that’s fine. Some conscious

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I totally sympathize if you’re monogamous and dating your first polyamorist—especially if they’re a relationship anarchist. There’s a lot to unlearn about compulsory monogamy and to learn about best practices in open relationships and decentering romance. It might feel daunting and intimidating at first, but it will become liberating over time. The key is to learn on your own terms, rather than just following someone more experienced. Just because someone has been polyamorous or a relationship a